Once upon a time, I strived for perfection. I read every how-to book, wishing a little fairy dust could sprinkle away problems I couldn’t control. Everything changed the day I found my daughter’s words on a suicide note scratched on a piece of wrinkled paper. Not long after, my first marriage ended in a messy divorce. A single parent of three, each of my children faced serious challenges. My youngest was diagnosed with more disabilities than there are letters in the alphabet, my middle son had learning challenges and struggled in school, and my daughter was self-harming and severely depressed. The picture-perfect family I envisioned had fallen apart.
Years have passed. My kids have healed and grown. My youngest will live with disabilities for the rest of his life unless the Lord chooses otherwise. I continue to devour books on everything from spiritual development to neurobiological advancements, but the motivation for learning has shifted. I’ve learned to embrace that life is broken and people are hurting, but in the midst of it all, God is always good and faithful even though it often feels otherwise.
I’m honored to serve as the director of Reframing Ministries at Insight for Living Ministries. Reframing means choosing to look at life through a different lens, one that is accurate, honest, and aligned with God’s Word. When we change our perspective, we see life in new ways. It’s all about coming to the end of ourselves and embracing God’s plan. Remembering His good plan requires we release ours to Him.
My desire is that you will find help, hope, healing, and a lot of humor here. It is specifically designed with you in mind—not the “almost perfect,” “put together” you; rather, the you that is human and shows up just as you are. Here you will find articles, videos, interviews, podcasts, and more. Most importantly, I hope the resources on this page remind you how valuable you are and that God isn’t done writing your story. Perhaps a little “reframing” will make all the difference. Come check it out!
In 1993, Colleen graduated with a degree in Communications and a double-minor in Education and Psychology. Colleen’s passion is to connect and encourage caregivers, domestic-abuse survivors, the disabled, and those struggling with challenges of faith and life. She also loves to read and apply God’s Word through writing, speaking at events and conferences, and teaching Bible studies. Colleen’s favorite time is spent with her husband, Toban whom she married in 2009. Together, they share five grown children, two of whom are married. Calling themselves the “Blended Bunch,” they love playing games, making music, and filling the home with a lot of laughter. When time permits, she enjoys working in her yard, exercising, and reading. Colleen and Toban reside in Frisco, Texas.
What I live for:
- Time with my family and kids
- Anything pink
- Do-it-yourself projects and power tools
- Mowing and landscaping my yard
- Swimming and running
- Laughing out loud
- My best friend, my husband
- Good hair days (they are rare)
- Going to bed at 8:30
- Getting lost in a great book
- The beach
- Great podcasts
- Cabins in the woods
- The Mediterranean
- Delicious food
- Listening to Toban play guitar
What bums me out:
- Back surgery
- Being deaf in one ear
- Car accidents
- Facial reconstruction (from car wrecks)
- Anything judgmental
- Gossip (especially at church)
- How people with disabilities are treated
- Chronic pain
- My son Jon’s struggles
- Having ADHD and PTSD
- Dogs that shed and mess in the house
- Being a klutz (the source of many jokes)
- Weeds and invisible bugs that ruin my plants
- Alarm clocks
- Writer’s block
- Hanging up my clothes
Books I’ve learned from:
- The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander
- The Call: Finding and Fulfilling the Central Purpose of Your Life by Oz Guinness
- Does My Child Have PTSD: What to Do When Your Child Is Hurting from the Inside Out by Jolene Philo
- The Elephant in the Playroom: Ordinary Parents Write Intimately and Honestly About Raising Kids with Special Needs by Denise Brodey
- Finding My Way Home: Pathways to Life and the Spirit by Henri Nouwen
- Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers by Anne Lamott
- Hiding from Love: How to Change the Withdrawal Patterns That Isolate and Imprison You by John Townsend
- Hope Heals: A True Story of Overwhelming Loss and Overcoming Love by Katherine and Jay Wolf
- The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday
- Oh, The Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss
- The Question That Never Goes Away: Why? by Philip Yancey
- Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution by Brené Brown
- A Shepherd’s Look at Psalm 23 by Phillip Keller
- A Tale of Three Kings: A Study in Brokenness by Gene Edwards
- Tuesday’s with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson by Mitch Albom
- What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith
- When I Lay My Isaac Down: Unshakable Faith in Unthinkable Circumstances by Carol Kent
- Shauna Niequist
- Henri Nouwen
- Dave Ramsey
- Tony Robbins
- Cheryl Sandburg
- Simon Sinek
- Luci Swindoll
- Tim Tebow
- John Townsend
- Ann Voskamp
- Norman Wright
- Philip Yancey
- Zig Ziglar
My Most Popular Posts
- Healing and Hope for Victims of ViolenceStalking, rape, harassment, trauma, murder . . . these words represent the enormous reality that domestic violence has become a global epidemic. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence defines domestic violence as . . . Willful ...
- Tools for Those in Need of Mental Health SupportFew things are more acutely examined than the human body. Of all its organs, the brain is the most complex. No other organ controls human functioning like the brain. However, what makes the brain totally ...
- When the Life You’re Living Is Not the One You WantedIt started 20 years ago. In God’s sovereign economy, it was planned before creation. At first, I called it a “difficult situation”—a “testimony in the making” that I believed would eventually pass. I Didn’t Want This That’s ...
- Two Principles That Will Change Your LifeMy son Jon suspiciously scooted his way toward me while we were playing the card game “Go Fish.” I observed his slight, smooth movements knowing exactly what was happening. Slowly, he began to lean in. So ...
- How to Find the Upside When Life Lets You DownIt can take immense work and strength to find anything remotely positive in an awful situation. Years ago, my dad and brothers planned a wild adventure: a hunting trip in one of the most inaccessible ...
- Courage for an Unknown SeasonIt’s something we all long to possess yet it’s one of the rarest qualities to find. I’m talking about COURAGE. Courage is the internal fortitude to keep moving forward in the face of fear, hardships ...
- A Life-Changing Way to Look at Your RelativesWe waited more than a year for this day to come. My husband, my son with disabilities, and I arrived early to the courthouse. It was 9:30 in the morning as we walked nervously toward ...
- Illusions: The Danger of Believing What Is Absolutely Not TrueWas the dress white with gold lace or blue with black lace? The jury’s still out on this one. In 2015, the Internet exploded over one dress. Or shall I say the color of one ...
- The Power of a Renewed MindVictims are speaking up and being heard like never before. Slammed across news channels and social media sites are horrific stories of bullying, inappropriate sexual behavior, domestic violence, and human trafficking, to name just a ...
- Life Can Be Hard and Full AlsoMost parents cringe when the school principal calls you for a meeting about your child. However, the school principal pales in comparison to being called by a prison inmate . . . who is also ...